Common Types Of Negative Self Talk include:
1- Black and White Thinking (or "All or None Thinking"): You view a situation as EITHER/OR, instead of seeing a larger realm of possible choices. Example: " If I don't exercise for 60 minutes, it doesn't count."
2- Magnification/Minimization: When you evaluate yourself, another person, or a situation, you magnify the negative and/or minimize the positive. Example: Your trainer corrects your form on ONE of your eight Front Squats and you think, "I can NEVER do squats without messing up!"
3- Mind Reading: You believe you know what others are thinking and therefore fail to consider other more likely possibilities. Example: " While I am at the gym, I know others will be thinking that I am too fat to be there."
4- Over-generalization: You come to a sweeping, negative conclusion that goes far beyond the current situation. Example: "Because I over-ate last night at dinner, I don't have what it takes to stick to my goals."
5- Personalization: You believe others are behaving negatively because of YOU, without considering more plausible explanations for their behavior. Example: Someone looks at you in a snarly way and exclaims, 'You're getting skinny; you need to stop working out so much and start eating!" (We all know where THAT'S coming frommore than likely , unless it's your very best friend who has known you for years who has just said that to you... in which case you are well within your rights to first hear her out and then punch her in the face! Ha!)
6- Labeling: You put a fixed, global label on yourself and/or others without considering that the evidence might more reasonably lead to a less disastrous conclusion. Example: I am a loser. I am a failure. (OR: He/she is a loser. He/she is a failure).
Ouch, right? Who has been there and done any of these? Who is still doing them? (raising both hands in the air right now!). BTW, not to lay aside the taking of personal responsibility, it's pretty obvious that, far too often, we overdo in the "it's all my fault" category (I could be up for an Oscar on that one, if truth be told). So, talk about your stuff with a trusted friend if you're wondering what and how much is "yours" to acknowledge and deal with. Take an honest look in the mirror when necessary. But use the above list as your reminder that most NEGATIVE affirmations have one thing in common: They each are likely to contain just enough truth to make them easier to swallow! Work on being discerning. Learn how to separate the truth from the lies. Hmmm... reminds me of a verse: "...Whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things."